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Burnout

My summer caseload is always lighter than the rest of the year. That's because I work primarily with moms, and moms are busy taking care of their kids in summer (which translates to not focusing so much on self-care). In previous summers, this dip in numbers has triggered a sense of "not doing enough." Extra time on my hands during...[ read more ]

Confessions of A Helicoptered Kid

I sometimes get myself in trouble with parents and with other professionals because I come firmly down on the side of giving children as much autonomy as possible, as early as possible. This includes taking a wait-and-see approach when babies wake up in the middle of the night, encouraging toddlers and preschoolers to play independently, and sending kindergartners off to...[ read more ]

Changes

Change is hard. Even when it's change for the good! I've been AWOL from this blog for months because of big changes in my life. I closed down my little solo office downtown and relocated to an office space I share with 4 other psychologists. There are so many ways that this change is good: - I have the wonderful...[ read more ]

Thoughts from Midlife

"There's a reason God gave children to young people." My mother used to say that after babysitting my brood for a few days - on the rare occasions when my husband and I got a day or two alone. I would mentally add, "... young people who have no idea what they are getting into." I often felt ill-equipped to...[ read more ]

What I Wish I Said, Part II: Feeling Like a Teenager at 50

I’m a late bloomer. I did a lot of odd jobs between college, marriage and raising kids, but I always felt the tug to go back to school. I hadn’t completed my undergraduate degree. When I had my third and last child, I decided it was time to go back. As my interests narrowed, I found myself increasingly drawn to...[ read more ]

What I Wish I’d Said, Part I

My undergraduate years now seem to me long ago and far away. I was in the midst of earning a bachelor's degree in music, and thought that I would make my career as a musician and teacher. My actual destiny was far removed from that - but I learned many lessons in those days that I've been able to put...[ read more ]

Self-Actualization: What Does It Mean and Why Does It Matter

This article is the sixth in the Taking Care of #1 series, about the hierarchy of human needs, how we experience those needs, and what we can do to help ourselves move toward higher-order living.  In this series, I have discussed our survival needs, such as food, water, and air; our need for safety and security; our need to belong;...[ read more ]

Schools and the Need for Safety

This article is the second in the Taking Care of #1 series, about the hierarchy of human needs, how we experience those needs, and what we can do to help ourselves move toward higher-order living. It is out of order because our guest blogger's computer decided to malfunction at a very crucial moment.  Second only to basic survival needs such...[ read more ]

Social Media and Our Need for Respect

This article is the fifth in the Taking Care of #1 series, about the hierarchy of human needs, how we experience those needs, and what we can do to help ourselves move toward higher-order living. In my last post, we discussed our need to belong, and how social media can and cannot meet that need. Today we are going to...[ read more ]

Social Media and the Need to Belong

This article is the fourth in the Taking Care of #1 series, about the hierarchy of human needs, how we experience those needs, and what we can do to help ourselves move toward higher-order living. Belonging Needs We all need a tribe: the people who we belong with, who accept us as we are. It is hard to overstate the...[ read more ]

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